Husband borrowed money on friends credit card?

he has already borrowed 30 grand - he's in debt way over his head and he knows it - he is now blaming you and trying to make you feel bad for finding out - well, you have NOTHING to be ashamed of - he does = hiding it from you. . . .I would not talk to him at all. If he speaks to you, tell him when you are ready to apologize for your behavior, we can talk about your debt like adults. Until then, I have nothing to say to you. And then stick to your guns.